You want to win them back, but now you don't know what else you can do. In this article, I will tell you what you should do to change your situation. I will show you how to get your ex to unblock you with the help of some simple tricks. Please read the article carefully so as not to aggravate your already difficult situation.
How do I know if my ex has blocked me?
Now, before I start telling you how to get your ex to “unblock” you, we need to clear up two important things. The first thing is very simple. It's about the question of whether your ex blocked you. Now I want to show you how to find out exactly that. You can also skip this part if you are sure about it.Facebook:
The best way to see if your ex has blocked you on Facebook is to go to your chat history. If they did, you won't be able to text them, which will also be signaled to you with the "You can't reply to this conversation" message. You will also no longer see their profile picture.
Instagram:
If you go to your ex's profile and you can't follow them or see their previous posts, they have blocked you on Instagram. You can also no longer see their likes and comments under your friends' pictures.Whatsapp:
If your ex has blocked you on WhatsApp, you can tell by the fact that you can no longer see their profile picture. Also, the messages you send them don't arrive (just a tick instead of two) and you can't call them via WhatsApp either.
Your phone number:
If you think your ex has blocked your cell phone number, you can easily check by calling them. If your call goes to voicemail after the first ring, your number has likely been blocked. To be sure, you should call back later. But you have to think of a plausible reason for the call beforehand because if they answer and you are not prepared for it, you will be embarrassed.
Why did my ex block me?
The fact that your ex blocked you is a hard-to-accept reaction. The reason for this is probably your annoying behavior. If, for example, you still sent them 20 texts a day despite the breakup, they may have found that the best way to make a clear end of the relationship is to block you.
The second important thing: You can now be sure that your ex has blocked you. But before I tell you how you can change this annoying situation, you must first understand the reasons behind this reaction. You may now be thinking that your ex would be so cold to you after the breakup out of sheer spite, but there is an entirely different and much more plausible reason.
I want to be honest with you: Of course, it could be that your ex is just mad and wants to annoy you, but it is much more likely that the reason for this behavior lies with you. So now you need to think carefully about what you might have done that made your ex block you. In my opinion, there are only two reasons for this. Either you annoyed them so much after the breakup that they saw no other way out than to "mute" you everywhere, or your ex just wants to forget you and ease the pain of the breakup.
1. You annoyed your ex.
This case occurs in many relationships that have ended: The person who left has not accepted the separation and tries everything to stay in contact with the ex. You stalk them on social media, text them over and over, and call them constantly.
You could have done exactly that. You just didn't leave them alone because you couldn't accept the breakup. Your ex blocked you because they couldn't find any other way to tell you that your relationship is over and there is no going back.
2. Your ex wants to forget you and get over the breakup
The second reason is that they need space from you and everything that reminds them of your relationship. They need this distance to get over the breakup and overcome their lovesickness. You may be wondering, "Then why are they blocking me"?
The answer to that is pretty simple. Your ex draws a digital boundary for your relationship. If they no longer have to constantly see you on social media networks, it will be easier for them to break with the relationship. They also want to discipline themselves a bit and prevent them from going to your profile and looking at what you are doing.
What mistake should you not make now?
I have to tell you one very important thing before I can tell you how to solve your “my ex blocked me” problem. You should know what mistake you absolutely must not make now.
A breakup is often very emotional, and being blocked and ignored by your ex may seem irrational behavior to you. You try to get in touch somehow and then flood the ex with hundreds of messages. You start stalking them on social media and asking mutual friends about them. But that's exactly what you shouldn't do now. You can't annoy your ex anymore. They will always find out when you should keep chasing after them and not accept the breakup.
Also, do not try to confront your ex under any circumstances and ask why they want to cut off contact with you. You need to stay calm and implement the following tips that I will give you. With them, you will make it so that your ex will allow contact with you again.
My ex blocked me on everything! What can I do now?
Unfortunately, I have bad news for you: if your ex blocked you, there is nothing you can do directly to get them to start communicating with you again. Their message is clear: "Please leave me alone. I need some space right now. " But what can you do now? There are a few very important things you need to do now, and I'll show you what they are:1. Keep Calm!
The most important thing is that you stay calm. I know it will be very difficult for you, and you're dying to confront your ex. But you have to trust me. That would be the wrong way. If you can't relax and think rationally about your situation, you'll never be able to deal with the situation properly.
You need to learn to accept your ex's decision. You have to accept that they don't want any contact with you at the moment. Even if you do find a way to talk to them, don't do it. You would get way too emotional, and that would not be conducive to your goal of getting your ex back.
2. Give your ex the space they need!
They just want to put some distance between you and your past relationship, and you should respect that. Leave them alone and give them the time and distance they desire.3. Take care of yourself!
If your ex blocked you, there is nothing you can do to change their mind. But there is one thing that will indirectly help you change your "my ex blocked me" situation. From this moment, you should focus entirely on yourself. You need to be at the top of your priority list from now on. No one else will care about you getting better. You alone are responsible for that.Of course, the first thing you have to do is treat the pain of a breakup. You must leave the past and think about the future. And to ask yourself "why do I care about someone who ignores me and don't pay attention to me?" Isn't it better to take care of myself and think about what makes me happy?
Once you have overcome your lovesickness, you must do all the things that you did not have time to do during the relationship. Get together with your friends and start all over again. During this time you have to find your way back to yourself and your old self. Become a better version of yourself with a lot of energy, love of life, and optimism.
4. Be interesting to your ex again!
You can go on vacation and try new things. You might even find a new hobby at the same time. You also get to socialize and meet new people. This distracts you from your ex.
To reinforce this effect and increase the likelihood that your ex gets an impression of your new personality, you can regularly post pictures on Instagram and videos on Tiktok to tell the world how your life is changing since you were no longer in a relationship.
What can you do if your ex won't unblock you?
In case your ex still blocked you after a month, there is one last thing you can try. After you haven't had any contact with your ex for about 4 weeks, you can now try to write them an email asking for their forgiveness. Apologize for your childish behavior after the breakup and show them that you deeply regret your behavior.
Please don't attach expectations to the apology. You would put pressure on your ex. This forces them to do something that they are currently unable to do.
It must be a simple, non-binding apology that they can accept or refuse. If they forgive you for your behavior, you can ask them to remove you from their block list. Don't mention your desire to text them again. Even if you succeed in convincing them, do not contact them immediately. Wait at least four weeks.
Under no circumstances should you ask in this email why they blocked you and blame them for the breakup. Of course, this also includes insults or other attacks on their person. This message should be about how sorry you are for your actions towards them. So, don't try to put out the fire with the fire, it won't go well that way.
The e-mail must not be too short, but also not too long. The reason for this should be apparent to you: If you send them a short e-mail (only two to three short sentences), they won't be able to feel your regrets. It looks like you didn't bother and just wrote something down quickly.
On the other hand, if the email is too long, this has the effect that your ex could get annoyed with you right away. They don't feel like reading an entire novel; if they do, your ex will think you're still not done with the breakup. They will believe that you will carry on as before and will continue to stop contacting you.
Unfortunately, I can't give you an exact indication of how long the email should be because that depends on your specific situation. Nevertheless, I have brought you a few examples of how to create an email correctly and what mistakes you should avoid.
Another very important point that you have to pay attention to is the spelling. Be sure to check your email for grammatical and spelling mistakes before sending it. Also, avoid abbreviations and slang. If your message contains errors and acronyms, your ex won't enjoy reading it. It also makes you look unattractive and uneducated. Needless to say, that wouldn't be conducive to your goal of getting your ex back.
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Hey Markus,
I wanted to contact you again and apologize for my behavior after the breakup. I know it wasn't right for me to attack you like that. I just couldn't and didn't want to understand the breakup. Now I can finish the relationship and I hope that you can forgive me again.
Your Susi
Hey Sebastian,
I know I didn't behave well toward you after the breakup. I wanted to apologize for that. After the breakup, I wasn't quite myself. I'm sorry that I attacked you like that and I hope that you can forgive me again.
Your Maria
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Hey Josi,I wanted to get in touch with you and tell you how sorry I am for texting you so many times and for insulting you so many times. I did not mean that. I was just so angry because you blocked me. I just wasn't over the breakup but now I've accepted it. Can you unblock me again so we can be friends again? Please forgive me. I promise you this won't happen again. I swear I've changed.
Your Daniel
Hey Maria,I wanted to get in touch with you and tell you how much I'm sorry for my behavior after the breakup.
Your Daniel
If your ex still has any feelings for you or is interested in you in any way, they will unblock you sooner or later. Use the waiting time to become someone your ex can fall in love with. But I would like to give you one more thing: It is of course also possible that your ex is no longer interested in you at all and no longer removes you from their list of blocked contacts.
You should be aware of that and you have to accept that because nothing you could do would change that. In this situation, I can only advise you to quickly overcome your lovesickness and start looking for a new partner. The only thing you can do in such a case is to write a letter to the ex. Whether you want to do that is up to you.
My ex blocked me: Summary
- Find out why you were blocked: The reason is mostly in your behavior before and especially after the breakup.
- Keep your distance: Leave your ex alone for now and work on yourself and your goals.
- First, wait for your ex to unblock you on their own: Give them time, and don't get impatient.
- Apology for your misconduct: Be sure to do this. Regardless of whether they should unblock you (then via WhatsApp) or not (then by email or letter)
I hope I was able to help you with this article.